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Our elders do have wisdom and strength to pass unto us. As we get older we begin to recognize their value.

My own lola has given me some great advice and insights on life.

Whether unconventional insight or practical, old-fashioned advice from our Lolas, Nanays, Titas, other relatives and friends . . . their words may have made a big difference in our lives.

We are sharing those gems of wisdom here and would like to invite YOU, too, to share what was passed on to you.

E-mail us if you have something to share, too..

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"I never get involved with my sisters' arguments with others. Just because so-and-so is mad with so-and-so, I don't have to be mad at them, too!" Mom

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"Never go to sleep without resolving an argument with your loved-ones." Mom

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My mother is very much on the modest side to the point of being humble. Sometimes it would frustrate me when her friends would boast because she would ooh and aah over their words but stay mum about her own pride and joy. Finally I finally asked her why she always did this and my mom said:

"Ay, kay daw sa ka insecure!"
rough translation: "Oh! It just seems so insecure."

My mom tells us: "Magmahalan kayong magkapatid, dahil kung wala na kami (parents), walang ibang magtutulungan kundi kayo din." You should love each other(brothers and sisters) because when we(parents) are gone you will have no one else but each other.

shared by: Tsangalang@aol.com

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"Wealth and Success cannot be enjoyed if you do not have health and love." Lola Tilde.

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"Mag-enjoy ka! You are lucky that you have the freedom and choice to make sthat decision. Hindi pareho noon, the pressure on marriage is high.....
" Lola. Julia

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"It doesn't matter how much wealth you have or how rich you are because if you have an unhappy marriage than you will never really be successful." Tito Ramon, a hard-working, self-made millionaire.

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It took me awhile before I understood what my Lola Tilde meant when she said:
"Marry someone whose love for you is greater than your love for him."

My Lola Tilde had surprising insight on gay love. Here is a rough translation from ilonggo when she spoke to her adult sons about their brother: "When you fell in love with a woman that I did not approve of I did not interfere because you found happiness. Now that your brother is in love, even if it is with another man, he has found happiness. So let him be." (When I heard this from my mother, I was so surprised, but I realized what an amazingly open-minded, free-thinking woman my Lola was. I love her very much for who she was and even if she's been gone for some time now, she is a very important part of my life and who I am.)

A "taboo" topic, very few women would talk about it to their family members. But here are some remarkable words from some remarkable ladies.

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"Learn what you can to protect yourself. I have ten children and I am happy to have raised them. But I don’t think you want the same, it was tough enough when I had the first three. Nowadays, you have a choice." Lola Julia

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"Learn what you can to protect yourself.... Tignan mo any iyong Tita Meling, napilitan mag-asawa kasi nabuntis. Salbahe pa naman iyang asawa niya. Uminom ka na lang nang mga pils-pils dyan, mahirap na matali sa walang-kuwentang asawa." Look at your Aunt Meling, she had to marry because she got pregnant. An S.O.B. is what her husband is. You should take those Pills out there. It's hard to be tied down to a good-for-nothing husband.
Lola Julia

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